Aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets Elizabeth E. Bruch1,2* and M. E. J. Newman2,3 Romantic courtship is often described as taking place in a dating market where men and women compete for mates, but the detailed structure and dynamics of dating markets have historically been difficult to quantify for lack of suitable data. In recent years, however, the advent and vigorous Cited by: The paper "Aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets" has received widespread attention in the media and online. Out of your league? Study shows most online daters seek significantly more desirable mates even though the chances of getting a response are lower. Aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets Elizabeth E. Bruch, M. E. J. Newman (Submitted on 14 Aug )Cited by:
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Table S2. Fractional regression of desirability on individual attributes—selected coefficients. References 33 — Romantic courtship is often described as taking place in a dating market where men and women compete for mates, but the detailed structure and dynamics of dating markets have historically been difficult to quantify for lack of suitable data.
In recent years, however, the advent and vigorous growth of the online dating industry has provided a rich new source of information on mate pursuit. We present an empirical analysis of heterosexual dating markets in four large U, aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets. We show that competition for mates creates a pronounced hierarchy of desirability that correlates strongly with user demographics and is remarkably consistent across cities.
We also find that the probability of receiving a response to an advance drops markedly with increasing difference in desirability between the pursuer aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets the pursued.
It is a common observation that marriage or dating partners strongly resemble one another in terms of age, education, physical attractiveness, attitudes, and a host of other characteristics 1. One possible explanation for this is the matching hypothesis, which suggests that men and women pursue partners who resemble themselves. This in turn implies that people differ in their opinions about what constitutes a desirable partner or at least about who is worth pursuing. At the other extreme, and more in line with biological studies of mate selection 2 — 4lies the competition hypothesis, which assumes that there is consensus about what constitutes a desirable partner and that mate seekers, regardless of their own qualifications, pursue those partners who are universally recognized as most desirable 5 — 8.
Paradoxically, this can also produce couples who resemble one another in terms of desirability, as the most desirable partners pair off with one another, followed by the next most desirable, and so on. To the extent that desirability correlates with individual attributes, the matching and competition hypotheses can, aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets, as a result, produce similar equilibrium patterns of mixing 5 aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets, 9 However, while aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets two hypotheses may produce similar outcomes, they carry very different implications about the processes by which people identify and attract partners.
If there is consensus about who is desirable, then it creates a hierarchy of desirability 11 — 13 such that individuals can, at least in principle, be ranked from least to most desirable, and their ranking will predict how and to what extent they are pursued by others.
Historically, however, these hierarchies have been difficult to quantify. Since they reflect which partners people pursue, and not just who people end up with, one would need a way to observe unrequited overtures and requited ones to determine who people find desirable.
Online dating provides us with an unprecedented opportunity to observe both requited and unrequited overtures at the scale of entire populations. As data from online dating websites have become available, a number of studies have explored the ways in which mate choice observed online can inform the debate about matching versus competition. These studies typically focus on how specific attributes of individuals shape their browsing and messaging behavior.
Thus, people compete on some attributes and match on others. While these studies provide valuable insights about matching and competition on an attribute-by-attribute basis, they do not capture the overall aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets hierarchy that reflects total demand for each person in the market. We provide a crisp, operational definition of desirability that allows us to quantify the dating hierarchy and measure, for instance, how far up that hierarchy men and women can reach for partners and how reach is associated with the likelihood of getting a response.
We also explore the ways in which people tailor their messaging aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets and message content based on the desirability of potential partners, and how desirability and dating strategy vary across demographic groups. To study individual desirability, we focus on messages between users of the website in four cities: New York, Boston, Chicago, and Seattle.
At the simplest level, one can quantify desirability by the number of messages a user receives and specifically the number of initial messages, since it is the first contact between a pair of individuals that most reliably indicates who finds whom attractive. Figure 1 shows the distribution of this quantity separately for men and women in each of the cities.
The most popular individual in our four cities, a year-old woman living in New York, received messages during the period of observation, equivalent to one message every 30 min, day and night, for the entire month.
However, desirability is not only about how many people contact you but also about who those people are. If you are contacted by people who are themselves desirable, then you are presumptively more desirable yourself. A standard measure of this reflected desirability is PageRank A scaled rank of 1 denotes the most desirable man or woman in a city by our measure, and 0 denotes the least desirable. It is important to emphasize that, while we use PageRank as an operational measure of desirability, we do not assume that users of the website themselves use PageRank, or anything like it, to identify attractive mates.
In reality, a person might choose to message another based on an attractive profile picture, an interesting description, a good demographic match, an impressive income, or any of many other qualities.
PageRank scores simply give us, a posteriori, a glimpse of who is desirable on aggregate, by identifying those people who receive the largest number of messages from desirable others. Once we have our desirability scores, we can use them to identify characteristics of desirable users by comparing scores against various user attributes, aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets.
As shown in Fig. For men, desirability peaks around 50 and then declines. In keeping with previous work, there is also a clear and consistent dependence on ethnicity 1520with Asian women and white men being the most desirable potential mates by our measures across all four cities.
The final panels in the figure show how desirability varies with educational level. Desirability is associated with education most strongly for men, for whom more education is always more desirable.
For women, an undergraduate degree is most desirable 13 ; postgraduate education is associated with decreased desirability among women. These measurements control for age, so the latter observation is not a result of women with postgraduate degrees being older table S2. Left Desirability as a function of age for women and men. Middle Desirability by ethnicity.
Right Desirability by highest educational level aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets. We now turn to the central results of our study. First, we use our desirability scores to explore whether people engage in aspirational mate pursuit that is, messaging potential partners who are more desirable than they are and how the probability of receiving a reply varies with the difference in desirability between senders and receivers.
In Fig. Top Upper curves show probability density for women and aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets of the median desirability gap, the difference in desirability rank of receiver and sender of an initial contact.
Both women and men tend to contact others who are ranked somewhat—but not excessively—higher than themselves.
The lower curves show the probability of receiving a reply to an initial message given the desirability gap between sender and receiver. Women have higher overall probability of receiving replies, but both women and men have substantially lower probability of replies from more desirable partners. Bottom Lower curves show the average number of people contacted by individuals as a function of their average desirability gap.
Upper curves show the interquartile range IQR of desirability of the people contacted, aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets, controlling for number of people contacted.
Neither set of curves extends all the way to the left of the figure, because there is insufficient data to make reliable estimates in this regime. The upper curves in the top panels of Fig, aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets. For each individual, we compute the median desirability gap over all initial messages they send and then plot the probability density of these numbers for men and women separately.
The most common modal behavior for both men and women is to contact members of the opposite sex who on average have roughly the same ranking as themselves, suggesting that people are relatively good judges of their own place in the desirability hierarchy.
The distributions about this modal value, however, are noticeably skewed to the right, meaning that a majority of both sexes tend to contact partners who are more desirable than themselves on average—and hardly any users contact partners who are significantly less desirable. A tendency for messages to go to more desirable people is to some extent implicit in the PageRank measure, which often although not always rates people who receive a lot of messages as desirable; however, the details of the distribution, including modal value, skewness, consistency across cities, and difference between women and men, are by no means inevitable and contain real information about partner choice and attraction.
The lower set of curves in the top panels shows the probability of receiving a reply to an initial message. The curves are higher for messages sent by women than for those sent by men—women are more likely than men to receive replies—but among both women and men, the probability of a reply is a decreasing function of desirability gap, more desirable partners replying at lower rates than less desirable ones, aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets.
Yet, the vast majority of men send messages to women who are more desirable than themselves on average. Messaging potential partners who are more desirable than oneself is not just an occasional act of wishful thinking; it is the norm.
The bottom panels of Fig. The upper set of aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets show the variation of desirability gaps across the potential partners a person contacts, quantified by the distance between the 25th and 75th percentiles in the distribution of desirability gaps.
Conditioned on the number of messages sent, men and especially women who reach higher up the desirability ladder tend to write to a less diverse set of potential matches, in terms of desirability gap. This behavior, consistent across all four cities, indicates that mate seekers, and particularly those setting their sights on the most desirable partners, do not adopt a diversified strategy to reduce the risk of being rejected, as one might, for instance, when applying to universities The lower set of curves in the bottom panels shows the average number of messages sent by a woman or a man as a function of average desirability gap.
Women initiate far fewer contacts than men, but both sets of curves fall off with increasing desirability gap in all four cities. One might imagine that individuals who make a habit of contacting potential partners significantly more desirable than themselves large positive desirability gap would also initiate more contacts overall to increase their chances of getting a reply, but they do the opposite: The number of initial contacts an individual makes falls off rapidly with increasing gap, and it is the people approaching the least desirable partners who send the largest number of messages.
Do mate seekers put more effort into attracting more desirable partners? On the basis of message content, there is some evidence that they do. In the top two panels of Fig. Both men and women tend to write substantially longer messages to more desirable partners, up to twice as long in some cases. The effect is larger for messages sent by women than by men, although there are exceptions. Among the groups we study, for instance, it is men in Seattle who have the most pronounced increase in message length see table S3.
Top Upper curves show the total number of words in initial messages, aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets, which increases with desirability gap.
Lower curves show the fraction of positive words in messages, which increases slightly for messages sent by women but decreases for messages sent by men. Bottom Expected payoffs to writing longer and more positive messages, holding desirability gap at its city-specific mean. We see that longer messages are positively associated with response rates only for women and men in Seattle. Positive messages are somewhat negatively associated with response rates for men; women have mixed success with more positive messages, depending on the city.
The lower set of curves in the same panels shows a simple measure of the emotional content of messages, the fraction of positive words [based on the Linguistic Inquiry and Word Count LIWC database 2223 ]. Here, aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets, we see an interesting difference between women and men: The women show an increase in their use of positive words when communicating with more desirable partners, while the men show a decrease.
The expected payoffs for both men and women show a remarkably close match to the messaging behavior depicted in the upper panels. For example, in all four cities, men experience slightly lower reply rates when they write more positively worded messages.
Although our analysis cannot reveal the underlying process that gives rise to these behaviors for example, reinforcement learningthis result may offer a hint about why men tend to write somewhat less positive messages to more desirable partners. Similarly, only Seattle men experience a payoff to writing longer messages—and Seattle is the only city where men write longer messages to more desirable mates.
Overall, however, the variation in payoff for different strategies is fairly small, suggesting that, all else being equal, effort put into writing longer or more positive messages may be wasted. The results presented here provide a picture of the aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating and its implications for the likelihood of success.
We present a network measure of desirability in dating that is based on mate-seeking behavior rather than subjective personal qualities such as attractiveness. We find that, while some mate seekers do pursue partners of similar average desirability to themselves, the vast majority of the online dating population we study tend to reach up the hierarchy toward more desirable partners.
In aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets language of matching and competition introduced at the start of this article, it appears that people are pursuing a hybrid strategy with elements of both—they are aware of their own position in the hierarchy and adjust their behavior accordingly while, at the same time, competing modestly for more desirable mates. We find that all but the most extreme mate seekers exhibit heterogeneity in their mate pursuit, initiating contact with partners across a range of desirabilities.
This suggests that both men and women combine aspirational mate pursuit with less risky prospects. In addition, there appears to be a quality over quantity strategy such that men and women who pursue more desirable partners send fewer messages, each with a higher word count on average. Messaging strategies also become less diversified in terms of range of desirability gaps as people reach higher up the desirability ladder.
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